ARE PEOPLE POPPING YOUR BALLOONS?

Have you ever noticed that whenever things are going really well for you, a moment of achievement or a change in your life direction which has filled you up with purpose and motivation, there are always naysayers around who delight in popping your balloon?

They may manifest as workmates, friends or sometimes even your own family, but they have their sharp pins at the ready to deflate your ‘big ideas’ or accomplishments. “Reaaalllyyy???” they say, in an incredulous tone.
“Ooohhhh, that’s awfully risky…”

with an ominous lilt. Let’s not forget the
“that’s nice, but did you hear about…?”
of indifference.

As the air slowly seeps out, your enthusiasm wanes, you begin to feel defensive, hurt and perhaps even reflect the negative connotations back onto yourself as self- doubt.
“Maybe they are right? Who I am kidding, I can’t really do this.”

The conversation moves on to other topics, but the pin prick still stings, the air is still leaking out. A mark has been made in your self confidence and your balloon is deflating.

Don’t let them do that to you anymore! There are ways to survive balloon poppers!

The first is to recognise that it’s actually not about you at all, it’s about them. People who perceive themselves as trapped in an unfulfilling life or have a lack of self- esteem will sometimes seek to empower themselves by putting down others. By pushing down the positives in the lives of those around them, they can avoid feelings of inadequacy about their own situation and inflate their own sense of personal power.

This is their issue, not yours.

Secondly, what you perceive as a negative comment may actually have been given with a positive intention. If the balloon popper is someone who lives very much “inside the square” and you are stepping out, to them this maybe a huge risk. The mere thought of this could send them into a spin, leading them to verbalise their alarm, because they genuinely care about you. The desire to protect those we love is a very natural reaction. It is important to recognise this, but again, remember this is their perception not yours.

The most effective tool to ward off balloon poppers is to surround yourself with balloon blowers. These are the people who admire your balloon when it is full, top it up when it’s looking a bit flat, and are quite happy to huff and puff when the knot comes undone and the whole balloon seems to have deflated and lost all of its vitality.

Make sure you have people around you who love to see you achieve, but also support you when times are tough. People who give you boost up when you need it, listen when you are down, but enjoy your successes too, because they want to see you happy and fulfilled.

In return you can offer them the joy, colour and fun that comes from playing with your balloon…they may join you on your journey or just enjoy witnessing you soar through the air. You can do the same for them, be their balloon blower.

These people are the ones who will allow you to pass by the balloon poppers. Your balloon will be strong and resilient and a tiny pinprick will barely scratch the surface! The balloon poppers may appear again and again but they won’t succeed.

Look around, how many balloon blowers do you have in your circle? Enough, or are you surrounded by balloon poppers?

It’s time to make a change. To look forwards. Rise up and float away from the doubters.

Find the balloon blowers and watch how your life takes off!

Balloon blowers also attract other balloon blowers, so before you know it there will be a whole bunch of you!

One balloon is fun, but a whole bunch of balloons is even better!!!

If you want to stop worrying about what other people think and learn to believe in yourself again, we can help. Contact us at Be Ultimate to find out more about our Individual Coaching Programs.

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I have been with the same company for nearly 10 years. Although in a leadership role and successful, I felt burned out, stressed and unhappy at work. This was impacting my work /life balance as well as my interaction with others. I needed to re-evaluate my career priorities and level up my communication skills. Cheryl took the time to listen and understand my situation. We worked together to better understand my strengths and values and how important it is for them to be congruent with my career development. With Cheryl’s guidance I focused on the steps I needed to make to remain myself, whilst becoming a better leader at work. Cheryl’s style, attitude and easy to follow steps are pragmatic and realistic. She provided me with tools I could use every day to remain focused on changes I needed to make to achieve what I wanted.This is an ongoing journey but I am now more confident, have a deeper understanding of both myself and others, have the tools to perform better at work and am maintaining a more fulfilling work-life balance.

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I met Cheryl as I started a personal journey in seeking greater clarity for my career. It has turned into much more and I am most grateful to her for helping me understand myself much better as well as how to interact with those around me. Both professional and private. Cheryl has been a source of strength and insight. Her warm and friendly nature makes it easy to relate to her. She challenges the status quo and help me improve many aspects of my life. A number of my colleagues have spent time with Cheryl and all feedback has been positive. I would highly recommend her.

Ross Cartwright, Managing Director – Head of Retail Aus/NZ, MFS INVESTMENTS

We were lucky enough to have Cheryl come to our Annual Team Conference where she presented a Creative Thinking Workshop for our Team. I would high recommend Cheryl and the workshop for anyone who is looking to open their minds and expand the vision of the business. The workshop was highly interactive with the concepts and ideas being able to be implemented relatively quickly and simply into our business.

Harry, Director of Projects, PLAN ASSIST PTY LTD

I have seen and worked with Cheryl on a number of events and projects she is a part of. So when it came to organising an EA/PA Networking event, I knew she was the right person to be our guest speaker. Cheryl is an engaging, humorous and energetic presenter, who can relate easily to a room of 10 to 100+ people. She brings a world of knowledge and experience to her presentations and her real-life business examples reinforce the messages she presents. Cheryl is definitely someone I would recommend to present at any corporate workshop.

A Edmonds, Events Manager, LUNAR PARK SYDNEY

I attended Be Ultimate’s workshop on Stress Management. It was amazing! It was exactly what I needed to understand how to manage my busy days. Cheryl taught us practical, easy to implement strategies that worked for me from day 1 and I haven't looked back since. I highly recommend Cheryl as a coach, and recommend her 2 hour workshops for anyone.

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David, Accountant, McSWEENEY CA CONSULTING ACCOUNTANTS

Cheryl provides an incredible bouncing board to lead you through your journey of reinvention or simply to gain reinforcement that the path you’re on is the right one. Cheryl is an awesome person who truly cares for other people, wants to see them achieve their goals, isn’t backward in coming forwards when you need the prod in the right direction and will encourage you to see the great results you are accomplishing when they may not be as obvious to you.

I highly recommend Cheryl to anyone who is looking for business advice, a change in career or simply wants to gain some solutions to taking a positive approach to life.

A.Wilson, Business Owner, CATEGORACLE

Cheryl has facilitated a number of conferences for Liquid Learning in both Australia and New Zealand and has always been a pleasure to work with! Cheryl is helpful, punctual, reliable and always professional. She is very skilled in keeping the conference running to time and lifting the energy of the room as she facilitates Q&A sessions. Cheryl also frequently runs workshops with us and does regular speaking spots which she always receives great feedback for.

Jean Young, Project Executive, LIQUID LEARNING

With the majority of delegates rating Cheryl’s keynote presentation at the IOPO Conference 5 out of 5, she exceeded our expectations! Cheryl is truly passionate about helping businesses to succeed and thrive.

Linda, IOPO Advisory Board Member, IOPO

Cheryl has been a delight to work with over the past 7 years. She has assisted our business, Independent Garden Centres, with professional development workshops, she has been of great support to me as a coach. Cheryl has emceed the last two annual IGC Retail Conferences with an engaging and fun style, and she has been one of our conference keynote speakers who held the undivided attention of the delegates with ease. I thoroughly recommend Cheryl Alderman in any of these capacities.  Cheryl is a consummate professional who quickly builds rapport, she clearly enjoys sharing her knowledge with others, and there is always an element of fun which oft missing in many professionals.

Evan Mueller, CEO, IGC

In this workshop we were introduced to a range of simple strategies that the group could adopt to manage the inevitable stress and tension experienced in corporate and every life. The cynical group loved the practical and interactive approach of this workshop and were highly engaged throughout the 2 hours. The presenters brought in lots of great exercises. I am happy to recommend this Managing Stress workshop and both presenters to other corporate groups.

L Jones, People & Culture Business Partner, FOXTEL

Working with Cheryl has had benefits that have reached far beyond me as an individual. She has helped me to become a better leader and elevate the effectiveness and potential of my entire team. Cheryl's coaching has raised my self awareness, shifted my focus to control what I can control, and given me tools to realise opportunities that I wouldn't have thought possible before our first session.

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