AVOIDING YOURSELF?

Are you busy all the time?

Do you have to tick off everything on your list before you sit down for a break…but the list is never done? Do you find yourself regularly working after hours or in the weekend?

Is it possible that you are using your work as an excuse to avoid spending time with yourself? If you stop working, and just be, you won’t be able to avoid your own thoughts, your own feelings and insecurities. You will be forced to spend time in your own head.

Leisure is only possible when we are at one with ourselves. We tend to overwork as a means of self-escape.

Josef Pieper

If there are things going on in your world that you are avoiding taking responsibility for, or that are too painful to contemplate, it is natural for your mind to find a way to protect you. Keeping busy is the perfect productive way to avoid the unpleasant. If your mind is occupied with other things you don’t have to focus on self. You can successfully avoid change, decision making, choices and confronting emotions. Plus, you can totally justify it to yourself and others, under the guise of commitment to career, ambition or wealth creation.

The only problem with this method is that your thoughts don’t go away!

In fact they are lying in wait for you the entire time. They are lurking around like shadows in the background, just out of sight. And they grow! The more you avoid facing up to them the bigger and scarier they become. Then you have to find even more ways to stay busy, work even longer hours. It’s a never-ending cycle. It’s exhausting and impossible to sustain on a long term basis.

Instead, what if you allow yourself to stop avoiding?

What if you choose to stop running away from yourself?

Give yourself some personal space, some leisure time. When you take time out, you can reflect, think, and assess situations more clearly. You are able to deal with the issues, make decisions and feel what you need to feel, without pressure.

Notice how empowered you feel when you are taking responsibility and addressing problems, instead of avoiding them. How much smaller they seem. Notice how having time to reflect on your feelings and life gives you better perspective and clarity.

Notice how much lighter you feel, how much less pressure there is, how much easier everything seems. Notice how the need to be constantly busy seems to be fading away.

Peace of mind arrives the moment you come to peace with the contents of your mind.

Rasheed Ogunlaru

Make the decision to stop avoiding yourself!

Take time to make time for personal space…for YOU!

Spend some quality time with yourself and just be. You are worth it!

Need some help overcoming those issues or gaining perspective?

Contact us today to find out more about our Coaching Packages. https://beultimate.com.au/contact/

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I have been with the same company for nearly 10 years. Although in a leadership role and successful, I felt burned out, stressed and unhappy at work. This was impacting my work /life balance as well as my interaction with others. I needed to re-evaluate my career priorities and level up my communication skills. Cheryl took the time to listen and understand my situation. We worked together to better understand my strengths and values and how important it is for them to be congruent with my career development. With Cheryl’s guidance I focused on the steps I needed to make to remain myself, whilst becoming a better leader at work. Cheryl’s style, attitude and easy to follow steps are pragmatic and realistic. She provided me with tools I could use every day to remain focused on changes I needed to make to achieve what I wanted.This is an ongoing journey but I am now more confident, have a deeper understanding of both myself and others, have the tools to perform better at work and am maintaining a more fulfilling work-life balance.

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I met Cheryl as I started a personal journey in seeking greater clarity for my career. It has turned into much more and I am most grateful to her for helping me understand myself much better as well as how to interact with those around me. Both professional and private. Cheryl has been a source of strength and insight. Her warm and friendly nature makes it easy to relate to her. She challenges the status quo and help me improve many aspects of my life. A number of my colleagues have spent time with Cheryl and all feedback has been positive. I would highly recommend her.

Ross Cartwright, Managing Director – Head of Retail Aus/NZ, MFS INVESTMENTS

We were lucky enough to have Cheryl come to our Annual Team Conference where she presented a Creative Thinking Workshop for our Team. I would high recommend Cheryl and the workshop for anyone who is looking to open their minds and expand the vision of the business. The workshop was highly interactive with the concepts and ideas being able to be implemented relatively quickly and simply into our business.

Harry, Director of Projects, PLAN ASSIST PTY LTD

I have seen and worked with Cheryl on a number of events and projects she is a part of. So when it came to organising an EA/PA Networking event, I knew she was the right person to be our guest speaker. Cheryl is an engaging, humorous and energetic presenter, who can relate easily to a room of 10 to 100+ people. She brings a world of knowledge and experience to her presentations and her real-life business examples reinforce the messages she presents. Cheryl is definitely someone I would recommend to present at any corporate workshop.

A Edmonds, Events Manager, LUNAR PARK SYDNEY

I attended Be Ultimate’s workshop on Stress Management. It was amazing! It was exactly what I needed to understand how to manage my busy days. Cheryl taught us practical, easy to implement strategies that worked for me from day 1 and I haven't looked back since. I highly recommend Cheryl as a coach, and recommend her 2 hour workshops for anyone.

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David, Accountant, McSWEENEY CA CONSULTING ACCOUNTANTS

Cheryl provides an incredible bouncing board to lead you through your journey of reinvention or simply to gain reinforcement that the path you’re on is the right one. Cheryl is an awesome person who truly cares for other people, wants to see them achieve their goals, isn’t backward in coming forwards when you need the prod in the right direction and will encourage you to see the great results you are accomplishing when they may not be as obvious to you.

I highly recommend Cheryl to anyone who is looking for business advice, a change in career or simply wants to gain some solutions to taking a positive approach to life.

A.Wilson, Business Owner, CATEGORACLE

Cheryl has facilitated a number of conferences for Liquid Learning in both Australia and New Zealand and has always been a pleasure to work with! Cheryl is helpful, punctual, reliable and always professional. She is very skilled in keeping the conference running to time and lifting the energy of the room as she facilitates Q&A sessions. Cheryl also frequently runs workshops with us and does regular speaking spots which she always receives great feedback for.

Jean Young, Project Executive, LIQUID LEARNING

With the majority of delegates rating Cheryl’s keynote presentation at the IOPO Conference 5 out of 5, she exceeded our expectations! Cheryl is truly passionate about helping businesses to succeed and thrive.

Linda, IOPO Advisory Board Member, IOPO

Cheryl has been a delight to work with over the past 7 years. She has assisted our business, Independent Garden Centres, with professional development workshops, she has been of great support to me as a coach. Cheryl has emceed the last two annual IGC Retail Conferences with an engaging and fun style, and she has been one of our conference keynote speakers who held the undivided attention of the delegates with ease. I thoroughly recommend Cheryl Alderman in any of these capacities.  Cheryl is a consummate professional who quickly builds rapport, she clearly enjoys sharing her knowledge with others, and there is always an element of fun which oft missing in many professionals.

Evan Mueller, CEO, IGC

In this workshop we were introduced to a range of simple strategies that the group could adopt to manage the inevitable stress and tension experienced in corporate and every life. The cynical group loved the practical and interactive approach of this workshop and were highly engaged throughout the 2 hours. The presenters brought in lots of great exercises. I am happy to recommend this Managing Stress workshop and both presenters to other corporate groups.

L Jones, People & Culture Business Partner, FOXTEL

Working with Cheryl has had benefits that have reached far beyond me as an individual. She has helped me to become a better leader and elevate the effectiveness and potential of my entire team. Cheryl's coaching has raised my self awareness, shifted my focus to control what I can control, and given me tools to realise opportunities that I wouldn't have thought possible before our first session.

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