Is your life dull and predictable? Do things happen around you and to you, while you just plod on through, dodging the obstacles, going through the motions? Is it over six months since you laughed uncontrollably or tried something you hadn’t done before? Are you bored and unfulfilled?

If you answered yes to more than two of these questions it is highly likely that you have laid down the controls and put your life onto Auto pilot.

Auto pilot is easy to do. Sometimes we don’t even realise it’s happening. Routines get created, habits kick in and there is a comfortable familiarity to the monotony. Certainty makes us feel safe. We may not be having any fun or adventure, but at least we don’t have to take any chances.

We find passive ways to compensate. Diversions such as television, movies and social media can lure us into virtual adventures, friendships and excitement, but they do not match up against real life and real experiences.

Recently I caught up with a friend who lives in Paris for a few months of every year. Paris is her passion, so she makes it happen! She rents an apartment there, has wonderful adventures every day, and shares them with the world on her well frequented blog.*

A business colleague of mine has a passion for motorcycles. He works hard running his own business during the week and then on the weekends when chores are done, he dons the leathers and helmet, and goes for a hoon on his bike, to wherever he ends up!

I walk five kilometres every morning, but I go a different route each day. Each time I see different people walking their dogs, jogging etc. I see different houses, gardens, cars, and smell different breakfasts cooking, flowers etc. I never know from day to day what I might see, hear or witness. My walks are fun and interesting as they have become an experience instead of just a daily ritual.

What would happen if you started to make a few changes? If you made a small effort, to shift your routine around so it isn’t so ordinary? You don’t have to travel overseas to do it, or buy a new vehicle…start small and see where it leads you.

Perhaps you sit on the same train carriage each day, or meet for lunch at the same café? What if you don’t tomorrow? What if you get onto another carriage or walk around the block to a new café you haven’t tried before? Perhaps you will bump into someone you know? Maybe you will overhear an interesting conversation that sparks an interest? Perhaps you will discover that the new café has nice coffee too? Whatever the result, it will spice up your day to some extent. It will shift the monotony.

When we introduce change and variety to our lives, it’s like waking up. Our senses become more alert, our brains kick over and things become more interesting. We begin to look for new experiences, notice things we hadn’t noticed before and feel more energetic and motivated.

What can you think of in your life that you can shift to add some variety?

Start small and see where it takes you. Take hold of the controls, turn off the Auto-Pilot and begin to experience your life again instead of just watching it roll by.

Say goodbye to ordinary…you deserve better!!!

If you want to take back control of your life or work out which direction you want to take, we can help. Contact us at Be Ultimate, today, to find out more about our Individual Coaching Programs.

Be Ultimate because Ordinary is Over-rated

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I have been with the same company for nearly 10 years. Although in a leadership role and successful, I felt burned out, stressed and unhappy at work. This was impacting my work /life balance as well as my interaction with others. I needed to re-evaluate my career priorities and level up my communication skills. Cheryl took the time to listen and understand my situation. We worked together to better understand my strengths and values and how important it is for them to be congruent with my career development. With Cheryl’s guidance I focused on the steps I needed to make to remain myself, whilst becoming a better leader at work. Cheryl’s style, attitude and easy to follow steps are pragmatic and realistic. She provided me with tools I could use every day to remain focused on changes I needed to make to achieve what I wanted.This is an ongoing journey but I am now more confident, have a deeper understanding of both myself and others, have the tools to perform better at work and am maintaining a more fulfilling work-life balance.

Catherine.R – National Manager

I met Cheryl as I started a personal journey in seeking greater clarity for my career. It has turned into much more and I am most grateful to her for helping me understand myself much better as well as how to interact with those around me. Both professional and private. Cheryl has been a source of strength and insight. Her warm and friendly nature makes it easy to relate to her. She challenges the status quo and help me improve many aspects of my life. A number of my colleagues have spent time with Cheryl and all feedback has been positive. I would highly recommend her.

Ross Cartwright, Managing Director – Head of Retail Aus/NZ, MFS INVESTMENTS

We were lucky enough to have Cheryl come to our Annual Team Conference where she presented a Creative Thinking Workshop for our Team. I would high recommend Cheryl and the workshop for anyone who is looking to open their minds and expand the vision of the business. The workshop was highly interactive with the concepts and ideas being able to be implemented relatively quickly and simply into our business.

Harry, Director of Projects, PLAN ASSIST PTY LTD

I have seen and worked with Cheryl on a number of events and projects she is a part of. So when it came to organising an EA/PA Networking event, I knew she was the right person to be our guest speaker. Cheryl is an engaging, humorous and energetic presenter, who can relate easily to a room of 10 to 100+ people. She brings a world of knowledge and experience to her presentations and her real-life business examples reinforce the messages she presents. Cheryl is definitely someone I would recommend to present at any corporate workshop.

A Edmonds, Events Manager, LUNAR PARK SYDNEY

I attended Be Ultimate’s workshop on Stress Management. It was amazing! It was exactly what I needed to understand how to manage my busy days. Cheryl taught us practical, easy to implement strategies that worked for me from day 1 and I haven't looked back since. I highly recommend Cheryl as a coach, and recommend her 2 hour workshops for anyone.


I have attended two LinkedIn workshops run by Be Ultimate and I have found them to be extremely informative, professional and succinct, whilst also being very personable and fun. I have already implemented new content and knowledge learned at the workshops ... starting at the actual workshops itself!

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Cheryl provides an incredible bouncing board to lead you through your journey of reinvention or simply to gain reinforcement that the path you’re on is the right one. Cheryl is an awesome person who truly cares for other people, wants to see them achieve their goals, isn’t backward in coming forwards when you need the prod in the right direction and will encourage you to see the great results you are accomplishing when they may not be as obvious to you.

I highly recommend Cheryl to anyone who is looking for business advice, a change in career or simply wants to gain some solutions to taking a positive approach to life.

A.Wilson, Business Owner, CATEGORACLE

Cheryl has facilitated a number of conferences for Liquid Learning in both Australia and New Zealand and has always been a pleasure to work with! Cheryl is helpful, punctual, reliable and always professional. She is very skilled in keeping the conference running to time and lifting the energy of the room as she facilitates Q&A sessions. Cheryl also frequently runs workshops with us and does regular speaking spots which she always receives great feedback for.

Jean Young, Project Executive, LIQUID LEARNING

With the majority of delegates rating Cheryl’s keynote presentation at the IOPO Conference 5 out of 5, she exceeded our expectations! Cheryl is truly passionate about helping businesses to succeed and thrive.

Linda, IOPO Advisory Board Member, IOPO

Cheryl has been a delight to work with over the past 7 years. She has assisted our business, Independent Garden Centres, with professional development workshops, she has been of great support to me as a coach. Cheryl has emceed the last two annual IGC Retail Conferences with an engaging and fun style, and she has been one of our conference keynote speakers who held the undivided attention of the delegates with ease. I thoroughly recommend Cheryl Alderman in any of these capacities.  Cheryl is a consummate professional who quickly builds rapport, she clearly enjoys sharing her knowledge with others, and there is always an element of fun which oft missing in many professionals.

Evan Mueller, CEO, IGC

In this workshop we were introduced to a range of simple strategies that the group could adopt to manage the inevitable stress and tension experienced in corporate and every life. The cynical group loved the practical and interactive approach of this workshop and were highly engaged throughout the 2 hours. The presenters brought in lots of great exercises. I am happy to recommend this Managing Stress workshop and both presenters to other corporate groups.

L Jones, People & Culture Business Partner, FOXTEL

Working with Cheryl has had benefits that have reached far beyond me as an individual. She has helped me to become a better leader and elevate the effectiveness and potential of my entire team. Cheryl's coaching has raised my self awareness, shifted my focus to control what I can control, and given me tools to realise opportunities that I wouldn't have thought possible before our first session.

Michael, Manager of Digital Marketing, DIMENSIONAL