Do you ever visit that nasty place called Overwhelm?

Perhaps you find yourself there often?

Once you arrive do you find you have lost your way, can’t think straight, and don’t know how to get out? Do you start to feel stressed, anxious, frustrated? Do you find yourself caught up in self- doubt, questioning your own abilities and worth, beating yourself up?

Perhaps you get so stressed you avoid doing anything at all, because it’s just too much to get your head around? Or perhaps you find something else to keep yourself busy so you can avoid the task at hand?

I myself am great at that particular trick. I have been known to write fabulous blog posts, tidy my desk, and vigilantly check on my social media platforms, whilst skilfully ignoring the challenging business proposal I should have been attending to.

A.k.a. “Pretending to be busy and productive so I can avoid being busy and productive”.

When you visit overwhelm, it’s easy to feel like you are out of control. The words “too much” “can’t do it” and “not enough time” are swirling around in your head and you can’t see a light at the end of the tunnel.

However, there are some simple tricks you can use to bring yourself back to a state of calm and control. So you can see more clearly how to address the issues at hand and come up with solutions instead of stress. Follow these and you will find that light at the end of the tunnel, without ripping all of your hair out or blowing a fuse.

Firstly, take a deep breath and step back. Take yourself out of the situation. Go and get a drink of water, take a walk around the block, or just go and look out the window for 5 minutes. Things always seem worse when you are in the middle of them, and even the greatest scholars can’t think straight in a state of anxiety. Give your mind a break and a chance to calm down.

Next, assess the task as whole then break it down into smaller pieces. If it still seems overwhelming, break those pieces down into even smaller chunks. Soon you will have a whole lot of little jobs to do, instead of one giant daunting one. Much better!

Then, prioritise the pieces and start at the top. Action one small piece at a time. Before you know it you will have several pieces completed and you will be on your way to reaching your goal.

Lastly, ask for help if you need it. . If you can delegate, do it. People love to help! Think about it, how do you feel when someone asks you to lend them a hand? You feel great, needed, valued. So do someone a favour and give them the gift of contributing, if the load is too much for you to tackle alone.

Before you know it, you will have left Overwhelm and travelled to Clarity, Focus, Productivity and Achievement. Much nicer places to be, don’t you think?

It really is that simple!

With practice, overwhelm will be a long lost memory and you’ll be smiling your way through whatever life throws your way!

Happy travelling.

If you need help to get on top of stress or overwhelm, we can help.

Contact us at Be Ultimate today to find out about our Individual Coaching Packages.

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I have been with the same company for nearly 10 years. Although in a leadership role and successful, I felt burned out, stressed and unhappy at work. This was impacting my work /life balance as well as my interaction with others. I needed to re-evaluate my career priorities and level up my communication skills. Cheryl took the time to listen and understand my situation. We worked together to better understand my strengths and values and how important it is for them to be congruent with my career development. With Cheryl’s guidance I focused on the steps I needed to make to remain myself, whilst becoming a better leader at work. Cheryl’s style, attitude and easy to follow steps are pragmatic and realistic. She provided me with tools I could use every day to remain focused on changes I needed to make to achieve what I wanted.This is an ongoing journey but I am now more confident, have a deeper understanding of both myself and others, have the tools to perform better at work and am maintaining a more fulfilling work-life balance.

Catherine.R – National Manager

I met Cheryl as I started a personal journey in seeking greater clarity for my career. It has turned into much more and I am most grateful to her for helping me understand myself much better as well as how to interact with those around me. Both professional and private. Cheryl has been a source of strength and insight. Her warm and friendly nature makes it easy to relate to her. She challenges the status quo and help me improve many aspects of my life. A number of my colleagues have spent time with Cheryl and all feedback has been positive. I would highly recommend her.

Ross Cartwright, Managing Director – Head of Retail Aus/NZ, MFS INVESTMENTS

We were lucky enough to have Cheryl come to our Annual Team Conference where she presented a Creative Thinking Workshop for our Team. I would high recommend Cheryl and the workshop for anyone who is looking to open their minds and expand the vision of the business. The workshop was highly interactive with the concepts and ideas being able to be implemented relatively quickly and simply into our business.

Harry, Director of Projects, PLAN ASSIST PTY LTD

I have seen and worked with Cheryl on a number of events and projects she is a part of. So when it came to organising an EA/PA Networking event, I knew she was the right person to be our guest speaker. Cheryl is an engaging, humorous and energetic presenter, who can relate easily to a room of 10 to 100+ people. She brings a world of knowledge and experience to her presentations and her real-life business examples reinforce the messages she presents. Cheryl is definitely someone I would recommend to present at any corporate workshop.

A Edmonds, Events Manager, LUNAR PARK SYDNEY

I attended Be Ultimate’s workshop on Stress Management. It was amazing! It was exactly what I needed to understand how to manage my busy days. Cheryl taught us practical, easy to implement strategies that worked for me from day 1 and I haven't looked back since. I highly recommend Cheryl as a coach, and recommend her 2 hour workshops for anyone.


I have attended two LinkedIn workshops run by Be Ultimate and I have found them to be extremely informative, professional and succinct, whilst also being very personable and fun. I have already implemented new content and knowledge learned at the workshops ... starting at the actual workshops itself!

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Cheryl provides an incredible bouncing board to lead you through your journey of reinvention or simply to gain reinforcement that the path you’re on is the right one. Cheryl is an awesome person who truly cares for other people, wants to see them achieve their goals, isn’t backward in coming forwards when you need the prod in the right direction and will encourage you to see the great results you are accomplishing when they may not be as obvious to you.

I highly recommend Cheryl to anyone who is looking for business advice, a change in career or simply wants to gain some solutions to taking a positive approach to life.

A.Wilson, Business Owner, CATEGORACLE

Cheryl has facilitated a number of conferences for Liquid Learning in both Australia and New Zealand and has always been a pleasure to work with! Cheryl is helpful, punctual, reliable and always professional. She is very skilled in keeping the conference running to time and lifting the energy of the room as she facilitates Q&A sessions. Cheryl also frequently runs workshops with us and does regular speaking spots which she always receives great feedback for.

Jean Young, Project Executive, LIQUID LEARNING

With the majority of delegates rating Cheryl’s keynote presentation at the IOPO Conference 5 out of 5, she exceeded our expectations! Cheryl is truly passionate about helping businesses to succeed and thrive.

Linda, IOPO Advisory Board Member, IOPO

Cheryl has been a delight to work with over the past 7 years. She has assisted our business, Independent Garden Centres, with professional development workshops, she has been of great support to me as a coach. Cheryl has emceed the last two annual IGC Retail Conferences with an engaging and fun style, and she has been one of our conference keynote speakers who held the undivided attention of the delegates with ease. I thoroughly recommend Cheryl Alderman in any of these capacities.  Cheryl is a consummate professional who quickly builds rapport, she clearly enjoys sharing her knowledge with others, and there is always an element of fun which oft missing in many professionals.

Evan Mueller, CEO, IGC

In this workshop we were introduced to a range of simple strategies that the group could adopt to manage the inevitable stress and tension experienced in corporate and every life. The cynical group loved the practical and interactive approach of this workshop and were highly engaged throughout the 2 hours. The presenters brought in lots of great exercises. I am happy to recommend this Managing Stress workshop and both presenters to other corporate groups.

L Jones, People & Culture Business Partner, FOXTEL

Working with Cheryl has had benefits that have reached far beyond me as an individual. She has helped me to become a better leader and elevate the effectiveness and potential of my entire team. Cheryl's coaching has raised my self awareness, shifted my focus to control what I can control, and given me tools to realise opportunities that I wouldn't have thought possible before our first session.

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